Do You Want to Feel Better -- Or Get Better?
The aim of psychotherapy is to help you improve the quality of your life. It’s not enough just to feel better. We want you to actually get better. There is a difference.
Just talking about a problem will often make you feel better. It just feels good to vent sometimes — to tell somebody what it is like to experience what you are struggling with, be it depression, anxiety, a relationship problem, a work problem, a major decision, whatever. Talking helps. Of course it does. The act of talking in and of itself allows you to clarify what you think, feel, want, need, and fear, which can lead to some relief.
But getting better takes you one step further. After you spend some time in our sessions reflecting on the deeper aspects of your life, sooner or later you will find yourself confronted with a choice. Do you want to go on feeling the way you've been feeing, or do you want your life to be different? Because if you want a different life, eventually you'll have to do something to make it happen.
Getting better requires action, usually in the form of small steps. Therapy helps you identify what actions to take, and how to take them. (Hint: your brain/psyche usually resists change. Therapy helps with that.)
I love it when my clients feel better. But I love it even more when they make progress towards a goal.
Interested? Maybe I can help.